WHY PEOPLE PUT DOWN OTHERS?

We all grow in a completive world starting the competition from our known ones. Is it possible for everyone to reach the same status in life? The answer to it is a clear No. But few people look you down because you haven’t achieved a position which is big enough for them, as, in a family of IAS you are just an engineer and some of your known associates who are quite self-centered because of their achievements and put you down. Didn’t you work hard for what you achieved? Why do such people need to measure your success on their scale? The irony is if you meet them they will try and guide you whether you need it or not, and bitch about you behind your back of how incapable you are for anything to achieve.

One of my friends told me about how in a family, where one brother becomes a successful Businessman and the other brother who fails to be at a certain level was looked down on. In family functions or any social gatherings, he is isolated by his own brother, just because he does not earn a handsome salary. He is not asking anyone for any financial help. Even If he is earning less he is managing his life accordingly. The same way the other who has huge earnings is living his lavish life.  Still, why can’t he be given the same respect by his own brother who earns huge? The constant criticism developed a sense of inferiority in him because of his own brother, which is what such materialistic successful people do to others.

The ones who are really successful are those who do not blow their own trumpet, about what all they have achieved to make you feel bad about yourself.  If someone does not see the world from another person’s eyes and see it from theirs and protect their flaws, they may have all the materialistic happiness. Is this all we require?

They only think the world is just about them. Thus, the world, from their point of view, is a place comprising them and perhaps a few persons around them who they can control. How the world affects other people really doesn’t concern them.

 And the ones who assume that they are so concerned about the friendship they have with you is pure is certainly not true. They consider friends as tools for getting what they want. To them, it is always about their opinions. They do not want to consider the opinions of others; due to their self-absorption they own point of view, self-image, desires, and preference

This is because they feel they are so important and better than every other person. As a self-absorbing person, They do not self-heal. If they have been hurt, they would rather rebuke the world for this rather than self-analyzing or even agreeing to it sometimes it can be their fault. For the self-absorbed person, the problem is either “you” or the “other” it’s never “me”. Most of the time, to them it will seem like, they are hurting nobody with their mean and criticizing opinions. Sometimes even if they try to encourage somebody it will be all about how they reached success and how nobody can put in the same efforts.  It should also strike them that everyone tries their best. They are focused on all the wrongs the world has done except them.

Though these self-absorbed thoughts may lead you to success because they are too much focused on themselves and can go to any extent to persuade what they wish, they are unable to understand others feeling and are unable to empathize with people. They lack in family relations because they tend to dominate. It may be their choice to exaggerate their opinions which can’t be changed, but the ones who suffer them can have a change of letting go of their dominating actions and attitude towards you because it is necessary sometimes to behave the same as people you deal with.

Also read, Man on mission.

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