Resort to lies sometimes when being truthful hurts?

Have you ever been on a slippery slope, you know you can pass it, but anyhow you slip and fall down? That is what happens when you lie because lies have no legs. Still, will you resort to lies when being truthful hurts?

But then there are circumstances where you have to lie to comfort someone or to surprise someone. You have to decide the purpose of lying to prevent yourself from slipping down. And draw the line of what can be lied because nothing is over Honesty as it is one of the best policies.

We all have been told from our childhood days that lying is bad and it is one of the evil things inside us human beings. But sometimes it is okay to lie depending upon what the situation is demanding.

As take a situation someone is asking you to tell me where your friend’s location In order to beat him brutally. What would you do? If you tell their current location you know what would happen. So ultimately you have to decide accordingly. If you are stuck up thinking the best policy will feel bad if you lie, your friend will get beaten up.

Remember that Lies are most beneficial when they are not spoken out for your personal interest. You should know some prosaically lies and when to speak what as all the times speaking truth would you cost.

Let’s take an example, You are about to get on stage and your colleague asks you am I looking beautiful what would you say- Obviously you will say you look the best, to boost their confidence. Inside your brain, it might be a possibility that you are thinking her makeup is a little extra for the occasion, but last-minute you can not make her feel low also she could do nothing about it.

Another time where you need to be careful while being is honest is when sharing feedback. It’s important to give an honest opinion but not being brutally honest while sending your message to anyone who just joined your firm and is a low-performing employee according to you.

Instead, you could say you have had a rocky start and hope you will improve in the future since everyone has a struggling start. Your feedback will likely be received better which in turn will benefit your business in the long run.

The debate overlying is not only about whether honest can help the situation, but also whether that information is delivered at the right time. “One thing people care about is whether honest information will distract them from something important,”

An example: You hear your friend’s company is expecting to get her fired right before she leaves for her wedding. Should you tell her?

In these situations, people tend to appreciate withholding the truth rather than speaking it at the wrong time.

It comes back to the idea of control—if your friend is about to leave for her wedding or honeymoon, she won’t be in a position to explore other job opportunities. And while every situation is different, consider asking yourself whether honesty in a situation like this would truly benefit the other person—or simply be a distraction, according to her one of the best moments of her.

And also why does our education system teaches us only to be truthful. Why does it not make us aware to manage between both lies and truths? How to practically deal with a situation when you are stuck? What to choose between truth and lie where you have a feeling that truth can be more brutal than a lie? So many questions right?

It’s not important to follow idealism every time. Or it is important to be practiced several times and mold us according to the situation. Honesty is idealism we all know it but, we have gone through much in our lives knowing that sometimes resorting to lies is more comfortable than truths. Nothing is ideal in this world rather everything depends upon the situation you are in and this is the effective way of living life. Don’t cage people in name of the following idealism.

So will you resort to lies in these situations or will stick up to the truth always no matter what?

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