Most of us wonder maybe people don’t like us, many assumptions come to our mind for this reason. Is that how I look, or do I talk too much or am I boring? We all somewhere think that attractiveness boils down to grooming, fashion, and genetics, but it is wrong. Our personality is just as if not more important than our physical appearance. But in today’s world, we might need to practice social skills to add stars to our personality. This process of development may start at any age not necessarily that if you are growing old you do not need any room for improvement and grooming. Improving ourselves leads us to a more fulfilling and happier life and it will make our presence more appealing to others.
Here are some quick tips on how to increase likability –
Enhance your conversation skills: Some of us are introvert who doesn’t love socializing, but in the end, it is not helping us at all because that is the only way of socializing and making new friends. It is not necessary that you change who you are or stop taking out time for yourself entirely, but we should make an effort to improve our social skills. A positive approach and friendly body language will make it more approachable for people to have a conversation with you.
Keep your mind with ideas to break the ice between you and others. Instead of talking about the weather discuss books or movies. Actively listen to what other is trying to tell you. Even if you are stunning outside if these conversation skills lack in you, you will struggle to progress in your relationships with others and even in your career.
Practice composure: Social situations are stressful. When your fight or flight hormone kicks in, try best to remain calm. Even if your heart is racing and you want to scream, take a slow deep breath and continue. This emotional intelligence balance requires practice, but if you can master composure others will admire you. The ability to make decisions with clarity is an admirable one and others find it attractive when you just do not dump your anger on others for silly reasons.
Don’t you doubt: If you are confident you will have no self-doubt. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t reflect on your decision or admit your mistakes. It means that you shed the weight of worrying about that are you good enough. Removing doubt means being fully aware that you are capable enough for what you thought for. Draw from your previous experiences, take decisive actions overall trust your judgment. These skills will foster your leadership skills which indeed is a very attractive skill.
Positivity and Hopefulness: Gratitude is known to improve the overall well being of individuals, and it can also help you reinforce optimism when you are with others. If you find joy in the finer details of life, you will become an asset to others rather than a burden. Negativity only works to bring you down. Complaining is unattractive. If you have developed a habit of complaining and never do anything about it, you will appear helpless and weak. Positivity and a hopeful attitude are attractive traits that you can bring into your life with little awareness.
Avoid that aggressiveness: Are you one of those who love controlling? Do you consider yourself to be a perfectionist? Do you get angry easily when things don’t go as planned? These traits are definitely not attractive. Anger and threat are huge turnoffs for your personality. If you are forceful people will avoid you. Conduct yourself in a manner that respects others for what they are.
Lighten up the mood: Some light humor is highly appreciable. It shows that you are not boring and know to manage some tough situations. If you take everything too seriously you are setting yourself for disappointment instead take a light-hearted approach to things and you might make someone laugh. Important is that there is a balance between humor and being rude. Find the balance.
Be dependable: If you are one of them who don’t follow through with your words and always give up on the plan made at the last minute, people find you unreliable and this is not attractive. People will stop coming to you for their important things in life. Develop allegiance so that people can count on you. Accomplish your goals. Find success by holding yourself accountable. Then others will hold you accountable as well and will show their reliability on you.
Be Genuine: If you only pretend to be interested in someone, they will notice it. Be honest. Insincerity is a huge turnoff that will drive off people from your life. Don’t give fake compliments or act overly confident as you know it all, you have never felt any type of insecurity in your life at any point in time. Be authentic that is what attracts people towards you.
Live for yourself too: Don’t completely forget about others too, but you are the star of your life. Follow your dream and passion. See what works for you. If you worry about what other people think of you which many people do.
These Social skills need to be learned. Take control of your life and you will see that others will be drawn towards you.
Also read, How to deal with people closest to you
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