Cutting off the parasites in life.

Are you one of those who are consistently feeling low these days? Do you want a long stretch of happiness in your life? Well, we all aim to be happy and contempt but… That’s certainly not easy all the time, since we have filled our lives with parasites in the names of friends.

They need to be chopped off

You face our hurdles and upon it, you are likely to get disturbed by people who have surrounded us expressing their fake concern about you. They are just present in your lives to drain out your energy.

They affect you negatively:

Then they come to a point when they start affecting you negatively. The worst part is that sometimes we do not understand why we are going through such a phase. We blame it upon us.

So no my dear friend it is always not you who has to put down yourself and blame everything upon you. Sometimes people around you try their best to stop you in your journey towards success. Spot them and chop them out of your lives.

Here are few steps mentioned to cut out those parasites from your lives:

1- Establish boundaries:  It’s sometimes obvious we understand the person’s intention through some interaction. When these interactions with a person run through your mental boundaries, know that person is present to bother you. Thus establish boundaries, and don’t give importance to their presence.

Part of removing toxic people from your life involves reducing their power over your emotions and that requires recognizing that they’re not really seeing you when they’re hurting you.

In truth, they’re projecting onto you the parts of themselves they don’t want to acknowledge or accept so that they can pour all their suppressed self-hatred into attacking you.  Thus it’s better maintaining a certain distance.

2- Choose your battles wisely: Make sure you choose your battles wisely. Conflict with toxic people requires huge amounts of energy and time. Just remember you don’t need to engage in every fight that they might try to instigate. Instead, save that energy for looking after yourself, and for nourishing relationships that are genuinely healthy.

3-Know that toxic people take without giving: Give and take is the lifeblood of true friendship. Sometimes you need a hand, and sometimes your friend does, but in the end, it more or less evens out. Not with the toxic person — they’re often there to take what they can get from you, as long as you’re willing to give it. Once they find you are not capable o helping them, they might leave you. Isn’t better to leave them in the first place because this may feel that you are being used and trust me that’s not good feeling at all.

4-Toxic people love to be victims: The toxic revel in being a victim of the world. They seek to find ways to feel oppressed, put down, and marginalized in ways they clearly are not because that is what they love. They just want attention either it is good or bad. This might take the form of excuses, rationalizations, or out-and-out blaming others.

5-Just end it: When you have had enough of it, realizing all your positivity and mental peace being sucked. Call it a quit.

That person might be your best friend but when you know they have been a snake of your life and have been disrespectful for all those good times. 

Conclusion:

When you’re in a toxic friendship, you’ll notice that the other person tends to exploit your flaws and find ways to use them against you. However, you can dramatically reduce the likelihood of this happening by simply getting to know yourself and learning to accept your weaknesses.

Balance them against your strengths, believe that you are a good person, and commit to that you are self-sufficient emotionally as well as physically. You don’t require momentary pleasure from these friends who are disguised as parasites.

 You are never too old to start overall again. With this in mind, surround yourself with incredibly positive people and, understand that when others criticize you very often, that unjustified and vague criticism is nothing more than a disguised compliment!

Time to chop off disguised parasites friends from your life.

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